In Loving Memory

“If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.”

Surpisingly profound words from the mouth of Winnie the Pooh.

We all live with the fear of losing our loved-ones and selfishly always want to be the first ‘to go’, to avoid the pain that comes with loss. But what happens when the inevitable happens and you have to face the awful feeling of emptiness and pain when you lose a loved one?

Coping with grief is a very personal experience and there are several useful articles on managing grief and surviving loss that may help you through the grieving process.

Once the darkness has lifted and you start to return to the real world, you will often be gripped with the notion that the loved one will somehow be forgotten; be wiped from the memory as if by magic from all those who knew and associated with your loved one.

To overcome this irrational thought, you will be driven to create some significant memorial that helps you (and the world in general) to celebrate his or her existence. This is neither unusual nor rare. Just look at accidental death sites; they are festooned with flowers for days, even weeks after the sad event, on the anniversary of the death or birthdays and special events, even more tokens of affection will appear. I know, because my wife and I have both worn the T-shirts; we have both shut out life so we could grieve in solitude; we have both sought solace in a never-ending round of remebrances and memorials.

Birthdays, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and Christmas always pass quietly, never celebrated.

But what we do celebrate is a wonderful 23 years of life before our son died and we have amassed an array of celebratory events and memorials that do give us solace and help us connect with him, even for the briefest of times.

Join us on our journey and if what we have done inspires you or gives you some ideas of your own and brings a glimmer of joy into your life, then the karma will pass on to others and bring comfort to them.

Call again soon, we will have some practical ideas for you.

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